Hi!!!
In our society we all have social welfare responsibilities. No one can say, it is none of our business. Nowadays these kinds of dirty things are growing like a poison in the society. Atleast as a indian citizen you have to take some action against them. By this the girl's life will be protected. Unless anybody interferes in this, they wont stop. According to me, one must be terminated. Else it wont stop. Taking actions should be in secret. Coz, the girl's family will be affected by this. But before action, it is good to confirm that they have affair.
From India, Madras
In our society we all have social welfare responsibilities. No one can say, it is none of our business. Nowadays these kinds of dirty things are growing like a poison in the society. Atleast as a indian citizen you have to take some action against them. By this the girl's life will be protected. Unless anybody interferes in this, they wont stop. According to me, one must be terminated. Else it wont stop. Taking actions should be in secret. Coz, the girl's family will be affected by this. But before action, it is good to confirm that they have affair.
From India, Madras
Is there a universal right of men to "drool over gals"?
Let me inform all the readers and members of cite hr. Mr. Ravishankar, always tries to criticise the situation, and always answers the questions in a very aggreassive mannner, which he should restrain from. The problem is sidelined, and he always is busy in blaming one or the other person. So mr. Ravishankar, its a kind advice to u, to understand the problems of people on this forum and suggest good advice, rather than criticizing some person or community or profession.
From India, Mumbai
1Let me inform all the readers and members of cite hr. Mr. Ravishankar, always tries to criticise the situation, and always answers the questions in a very aggreassive mannner, which he should restrain from. The problem is sidelined, and he always is busy in blaming one or the other person. So mr. Ravishankar, its a kind advice to u, to understand the problems of people on this forum and suggest good advice, rather than criticizing some person or community or profession.
From India, Mumbai
Hello Friends,
This is a normal thing affairs, scandals. As a organisation there are two things we need to look into.
a) If this affair is affecting the perfomance of the person involved.
b) Are involved in activities which is unethical.
Then the organisaiton needs to step in and sort it out. Either by a verbal warning or written warning.
Now the point of atmosphere getting polluted. I know what I am going to put across is not acceptable for everyone whether its a Male or femal Gender. But the Fact is there a thing called "Jealousy"
For some, they are Jealous because they couldnt have a had such an affair.
For some They want to but couldnt dare to.
I think, the other people should concentrate on their work and stop looking into personal life of other.
If your are so concerned for such things then thre are lots of thing which are happening around us are we going to take every issue, the answer is No.
From India, Mumbai
This is a normal thing affairs, scandals. As a organisation there are two things we need to look into.
a) If this affair is affecting the perfomance of the person involved.
b) Are involved in activities which is unethical.
Then the organisaiton needs to step in and sort it out. Either by a verbal warning or written warning.
Now the point of atmosphere getting polluted. I know what I am going to put across is not acceptable for everyone whether its a Male or femal Gender. But the Fact is there a thing called "Jealousy"
For some, they are Jealous because they couldnt have a had such an affair.
For some They want to but couldnt dare to.
I think, the other people should concentrate on their work and stop looking into personal life of other.
If your are so concerned for such things then thre are lots of thing which are happening around us are we going to take every issue, the answer is No.
From India, Mumbai
Good say Punrima 19 , We are here to share our views to reslove the problem for a better and better result not to creat a problem or to make the matter worse . Regards.. Mangesh HR Manager
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
very true purnima, there is no universal right of men to drool over gals, that can happen vice-versa.
one question to ravishankar - if all the women should prevent themselves from getting into affairs........how men would justify there genology according to you?????
From India, Delhi
one question to ravishankar - if all the women should prevent themselves from getting into affairs........how men would justify there genology according to you?????
From India, Delhi
Hi
I have seen extreme response to this and I am adding another one to it..
First I am amazed to see majority people are taking about doing something ( counsel/letter / talking/action etc) to the lady.. no one is talking about the other partner.. why are we assuming the lady is at fault?
On the relationship, society keep on evolving itself and rules keep on changing based on what people want to do. Highest court of India has accepted live-in relationship which was once considered extreme taboo.. This is individual choice what one looks at it. Never ever we shall have unified view of the whole society.
In this particular case, organisation have appointed 2 adult human being capable of taking decision of their life. Organisation has no right (legal as well as moral) to interfere in this. As far as the impact on other employees are concerned, I think role of managers would be to educate people about not to meddle in the personal affairs of others and mind their own business. If this effecting performance of individuals then they are subject to performance management process of the organisation.
I know many people will not like my view but let me clarify my belief here. Freedom and liberty is the belief of 21st century and people specially new generation is beginning to enjoy this. Never in the history we had access to so much information to know whats happening in the world and pre-adapt ourselves before that situation hits us. Relationships are also undergoing the same curve. New generation married couple have more personal independence then their parent had. Husband & wife feel free to take independent decisions with ease today. We have accepted this change quickly then why not in other areas of relationships.
From India, Bangalore
I have seen extreme response to this and I am adding another one to it..
First I am amazed to see majority people are taking about doing something ( counsel/letter / talking/action etc) to the lady.. no one is talking about the other partner.. why are we assuming the lady is at fault?
On the relationship, society keep on evolving itself and rules keep on changing based on what people want to do. Highest court of India has accepted live-in relationship which was once considered extreme taboo.. This is individual choice what one looks at it. Never ever we shall have unified view of the whole society.
In this particular case, organisation have appointed 2 adult human being capable of taking decision of their life. Organisation has no right (legal as well as moral) to interfere in this. As far as the impact on other employees are concerned, I think role of managers would be to educate people about not to meddle in the personal affairs of others and mind their own business. If this effecting performance of individuals then they are subject to performance management process of the organisation.
I know many people will not like my view but let me clarify my belief here. Freedom and liberty is the belief of 21st century and people specially new generation is beginning to enjoy this. Never in the history we had access to so much information to know whats happening in the world and pre-adapt ourselves before that situation hits us. Relationships are also undergoing the same curve. New generation married couple have more personal independence then their parent had. Husband & wife feel free to take independent decisions with ease today. We have accepted this change quickly then why not in other areas of relationships.
From India, Bangalore
Lets look at only on how it affects the work culture.
In my opinion - no one should be bothered on what is happening in another person's personal life. Unless and uintil they are "making things very obvious" in the work place, and that literally hinders others work!
BTW - what makes anyone think that this Woman has a relationship with the man? Becuase she gets dropped by him, or is it becuase they have coffee/lunch together? Any "proofs??"
Its basically our ignorance to stop concentrating on what matters the most - i.e "Work" and let things not related to it affect as and finally complain that it is teh other person's relation!
The whole world is intersted in other people's affairs.. Eg:Sania Mirza and the Shoaib thing that dominated news channels - what did we get? (or reportes get?) Banned from viewing the engagement :-)
Kareena and Saif - what did interested people like us get? Nothing just ads that talk about recoring serials and eating popcorns
Aishwarys and Abhi - ...arghh.. I really dont know what to write here..but liek others quote "Oh a cute pair!!"
The above three examples have never impacted our lives personally or professionally.
Just in that way - I believe other employees need to stay focused on their work.. If this is happening in their house / family, they can be upset. Otherwise, its just a mere excuse to enjoy in the sweet moment of being lazy or not working!
Like how there is a common saying - every person falls in love at least once in their life - likewise, .most of the people come across this situation atleast once (extra marital affair) - its left to them to decide to ruin their life or not. Ofcourse - my advise would be is to stay away unless and until the current relationship is abusive or not working at all inspite of trying to improve relations!
From India, Madras
In my opinion - no one should be bothered on what is happening in another person's personal life. Unless and uintil they are "making things very obvious" in the work place, and that literally hinders others work!
BTW - what makes anyone think that this Woman has a relationship with the man? Becuase she gets dropped by him, or is it becuase they have coffee/lunch together? Any "proofs??"
Its basically our ignorance to stop concentrating on what matters the most - i.e "Work" and let things not related to it affect as and finally complain that it is teh other person's relation!
The whole world is intersted in other people's affairs.. Eg:Sania Mirza and the Shoaib thing that dominated news channels - what did we get? (or reportes get?) Banned from viewing the engagement :-)
Kareena and Saif - what did interested people like us get? Nothing just ads that talk about recoring serials and eating popcorns
Aishwarys and Abhi - ...arghh.. I really dont know what to write here..but liek others quote "Oh a cute pair!!"
The above three examples have never impacted our lives personally or professionally.
Just in that way - I believe other employees need to stay focused on their work.. If this is happening in their house / family, they can be upset. Otherwise, its just a mere excuse to enjoy in the sweet moment of being lazy or not working!
Like how there is a common saying - every person falls in love at least once in their life - likewise, .most of the people come across this situation atleast once (extra marital affair) - its left to them to decide to ruin their life or not. Ofcourse - my advise would be is to stay away unless and until the current relationship is abusive or not working at all inspite of trying to improve relations!
From India, Madras
I agree to your view. Its wrong to assume, and it really wrong to have an opinion on another person’s personal life. Are we all that jobless???
From India, Madras
From India, Madras
Reg; Extra Marital affair
Before diving into conclusion first ascertain they have extra marital affair, if yes you can counsel both and give piece of advice which is affecting the work, The Management is not bothered unless they are efficiency has come down, but has HR Manager you can stop all these nonsense.
Satish B HR-Manager
From India, Bangalore
Before diving into conclusion first ascertain they have extra marital affair, if yes you can counsel both and give piece of advice which is affecting the work, The Management is not bothered unless they are efficiency has come down, but has HR Manager you can stop all these nonsense.
Satish B HR-Manager
From India, Bangalore
A good problem indeed. In my opinion an organisation is just like a small society, were people with various attitudes and thinking work. No doubt it surely effects the people working around. On the other part If I talk like head of a department where such activities are going on but it has no effect on the work its none of my business to poke my mouth in someones personal life.
Just look around you will find a lot of things which are not according to you but still you live or its better to say you adjust. There are a lot of evils in the society still you save yourself from those. Your culture has made you learn how to move in a society which has both even as well as odds. Think there might be reasons why that employee is doing so.
What I actually want to say is that dont get bothered by the gossips in your office, just let it go. I have too faced such problem but the result was zero, I had to fire both the employees resulting loss of two workers. Let it all go till the work is not suffered and the best soultion is if you can just transfer one of the employee to other department.
From India, Moradabad
Just look around you will find a lot of things which are not according to you but still you live or its better to say you adjust. There are a lot of evils in the society still you save yourself from those. Your culture has made you learn how to move in a society which has both even as well as odds. Think there might be reasons why that employee is doing so.
What I actually want to say is that dont get bothered by the gossips in your office, just let it go. I have too faced such problem but the result was zero, I had to fire both the employees resulting loss of two workers. Let it all go till the work is not suffered and the best soultion is if you can just transfer one of the employee to other department.
From India, Moradabad
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