Dear Ms Swati,
In addition to my earlier posts, there are few more points which I would like to share and it should be taken into consideration pertaining to this topic:
(1) The reaction also depends on the wordings you have used in the mail written by you.
(2) You know one saying "DOOSRE KE KANDHE PE BANDOOK RAKH KE GOLI MAARNA" sometimes it happens with the Manager's also. It might possible that this would be happened in your case.
(3) Only because of that email your manager had taken all responsibilities from you that sounds some inappropriate. There must be some earlier issues between both of you and now your Manager has grab this opportunity. Well, I am not saying that you have done something wrong earlier but if yes, just learn from this.
(4) Even if you can talk to the Director to resolve the issue but the possibility of rise of your future in the same organization will be very less.
(5) Don;t ever leave any organization/seniors with negative feelings. I mean to say when you will leave this organization never quarrel with anybody before or @ of leaving. Somewhere/somehow it may create problems in your future.
I also agree with some of the members to take leave for few days etc but the approvals for the leave etc are under control of that Manager with whom your time is not good. What if your manager refuse your leave? She (Manager) may create another issue on your leaves? If you have some misunderstandings then bad impression comes first in anybody's mind. So as per my view, if you take leave for some days or so then the difference between both of you may be increased.
I agree with Ms. Radha and 2.5 years is quite sufficient to look forward. Stay calm, keep watiching other job without informing any of your single office colleague at all. You can share the same with you family members, friends but not in your organization at all. in the meantime, try to be good with everyone in the staff especially to your Manager and other seniors.
I would request Senior members here to correct/guide me on my views.
Anurag
From India, Indore
20In addition to my earlier posts, there are few more points which I would like to share and it should be taken into consideration pertaining to this topic:
(1) The reaction also depends on the wordings you have used in the mail written by you.
(2) You know one saying "DOOSRE KE KANDHE PE BANDOOK RAKH KE GOLI MAARNA" sometimes it happens with the Manager's also. It might possible that this would be happened in your case.
(3) Only because of that email your manager had taken all responsibilities from you that sounds some inappropriate. There must be some earlier issues between both of you and now your Manager has grab this opportunity. Well, I am not saying that you have done something wrong earlier but if yes, just learn from this.
(4) Even if you can talk to the Director to resolve the issue but the possibility of rise of your future in the same organization will be very less.
(5) Don;t ever leave any organization/seniors with negative feelings. I mean to say when you will leave this organization never quarrel with anybody before or @ of leaving. Somewhere/somehow it may create problems in your future.
I also agree with some of the members to take leave for few days etc but the approvals for the leave etc are under control of that Manager with whom your time is not good. What if your manager refuse your leave? She (Manager) may create another issue on your leaves? If you have some misunderstandings then bad impression comes first in anybody's mind. So as per my view, if you take leave for some days or so then the difference between both of you may be increased.
I agree with Ms. Radha and 2.5 years is quite sufficient to look forward. Stay calm, keep watiching other job without informing any of your single office colleague at all. You can share the same with you family members, friends but not in your organization at all. in the meantime, try to be good with everyone in the staff especially to your Manager and other seniors.
I would request Senior members here to correct/guide me on my views.
Anurag
From India, Indore
Dear Swaati, Just keep your cool and be polite to her. Eventually, things are going to work out. Regards Sanjiv Gupta
From India, Delhi
From India, Delhi
Dear Swati,
I think u have gained most valuable suggestion now. But what i tell u that being a girl, u have to be bold and beautiful while working in industries particularly for HR field. So i suggest u to have courage and take action in diplomatic way. U start recording of conversation between u and yr boss as to have proof of yr boss' behavior. Then u start to report yr director directly and bypass yr boss and realise yr boss that u can also have courage. This thing u can only do when u have no fear of termination and if u think of switchover. Secondly u can also find another job wile working in yr organisation. Swati, remember in industry, this kind of problems are part and partial. So u have to accept but it does not mean that u lose yr courage as u will also become department head one time. So if the person in front of u is polite then u must be double polite and if the person in front of u is abuse u and if she is yr boss then being a HR person, u start to think in diplomatic way to defeat her.
See Swati, if u have problem in work then u will never ever have satisfaction from yr work so better u switch over but not like in cowardness manner but with courageous manner.
If any help, u can mail me.
From India, Surat
I think u have gained most valuable suggestion now. But what i tell u that being a girl, u have to be bold and beautiful while working in industries particularly for HR field. So i suggest u to have courage and take action in diplomatic way. U start recording of conversation between u and yr boss as to have proof of yr boss' behavior. Then u start to report yr director directly and bypass yr boss and realise yr boss that u can also have courage. This thing u can only do when u have no fear of termination and if u think of switchover. Secondly u can also find another job wile working in yr organisation. Swati, remember in industry, this kind of problems are part and partial. So u have to accept but it does not mean that u lose yr courage as u will also become department head one time. So if the person in front of u is polite then u must be double polite and if the person in front of u is abuse u and if she is yr boss then being a HR person, u start to think in diplomatic way to defeat her.
See Swati, if u have problem in work then u will never ever have satisfaction from yr work so better u switch over but not like in cowardness manner but with courageous manner.
If any help, u can mail me.
From India, Surat
I elieve she is settling any personal issue with you. Remember if anything she had in personal with you. And also try to ignor this matter. Hopefully she will also forget.
From India, Bangalore
From India, Bangalore
Dear Swati, All the suggestions are good enough all you can do is to find out the exact reason by discussion or leave the job once you’ll get another. Regards Parul
From India, Pune
From India, Pune
It is now a question of ego satisfaction. Explore your options? Whom is your manager close to? Talk to them how you need to approach her and what see wants. Talking to her again and again for apologies may boomerang, as sometimes this doesn't satisfy the others' ego. I had similar experience with e-mail but I had sent a re-mail to everybody withdrawing the earlier one (symbolically). It helped a little, may be wait silently as sometimes time is the greatest healer
Bye,
Pankaj
From India, Moradabad
Bye,
Pankaj
From India, Moradabad
Swati,
First, I appreciate you, that your breaveness.
Recenetly these kind of ancident happend with me. I knew my weakness and my strong point. I stick with my athics, and my respocibility yet due to my manager misbehaviour I had to left my job. I got batter opertunity right now I am a very good possition just after a six month. Last week I visited my previous company I found that My seniour possition is in danger situation. He is not getting any respect from staff and management. So, I advice you change your job and proove yourself.
From India, Rajkot
First, I appreciate you, that your breaveness.
Recenetly these kind of ancident happend with me. I knew my weakness and my strong point. I stick with my athics, and my respocibility yet due to my manager misbehaviour I had to left my job. I got batter opertunity right now I am a very good possition just after a six month. Last week I visited my previous company I found that My seniour possition is in danger situation. He is not getting any respect from staff and management. So, I advice you change your job and proove yourself.
From India, Rajkot
Dear Swati,
Every one make mistakes. You have not anything majorly wrong. So have confidence. Never loose your self respect and self confidence. As some one already told, try to speak to her directly as why only she is treating this way. If she doesnt respond well, you can definitely immediately speak to your director. Kindly note, once you want to directly speak to her itself will be a warning to her that you are not a dumb and she cant keep bullying you.
Never ever loose your self respect. Dont let such people be, to just satisfy their ego.
Regards,
Yamini
From India, Chennai
Every one make mistakes. You have not anything majorly wrong. So have confidence. Never loose your self respect and self confidence. As some one already told, try to speak to her directly as why only she is treating this way. If she doesnt respond well, you can definitely immediately speak to your director. Kindly note, once you want to directly speak to her itself will be a warning to her that you are not a dumb and she cant keep bullying you.
Never ever loose your self respect. Dont let such people be, to just satisfy their ego.
Regards,
Yamini
From India, Chennai
Dear Swati,
Please get it sorted out with the Director or which ever senior person in your organization before she gets you fired from the organization pointing the previous occurrence.. I think your manager is more egoistic and getting more aggressive.
This is a serious matter.
From India, Mumbai
Please get it sorted out with the Director or which ever senior person in your organization before she gets you fired from the organization pointing the previous occurrence.. I think your manager is more egoistic and getting more aggressive.
This is a serious matter.
From India, Mumbai
Hi Swati,
I feel you should go to your Director in this situation. Our immediate supervisors are like our gurus. Each and every thing we share with them at least during our entry level work. If the managers only are not allowing us to clarify the issue then what is the use of being the guru. I think your manager is making it a little personal being a professional which should not happen. Even i get scoldings from my manager for not doing work properly. she will make me understand properly, so in this case i dont need to go to director or any other management person.
Thanks !!!
From India, Pune
I feel you should go to your Director in this situation. Our immediate supervisors are like our gurus. Each and every thing we share with them at least during our entry level work. If the managers only are not allowing us to clarify the issue then what is the use of being the guru. I think your manager is making it a little personal being a professional which should not happen. Even i get scoldings from my manager for not doing work properly. she will make me understand properly, so in this case i dont need to go to director or any other management person.
Thanks !!!
From India, Pune
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