Hi Prachi,
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Dear Sam
But what about other people in her team and rest of the employees in my company................ What procedure should be followed with them then? what will happen to the ideology of being fair with the employees in the company and how should deal with the dissatisfaction that will be created amongst other members????????????????????????/
Do reply.........................
Prachi
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The other people in the Organisation or others who are in her department also will not feel bad and they cannot feel bad as she is Director's wife first and then their colleague next. There is no need to follow some other procedure with them. Whatever procedure you are following right now hold good in the future also. This is an exceptional case and has to be treated in a different way. I feel our friends have jumped into various conclusion like his wife nagging at home etc.,
-Srinaren
From India, Bangalore
Quote:
Dear Sam
But what about other people in her team and rest of the employees in my company................ What procedure should be followed with them then? what will happen to the ideology of being fair with the employees in the company and how should deal with the dissatisfaction that will be created amongst other members????????????????????????/
Do reply.........................
Prachi
Unquote:
The other people in the Organisation or others who are in her department also will not feel bad and they cannot feel bad as she is Director's wife first and then their colleague next. There is no need to follow some other procedure with them. Whatever procedure you are following right now hold good in the future also. This is an exceptional case and has to be treated in a different way. I feel our friends have jumped into various conclusion like his wife nagging at home etc.,
-Srinaren
From India, Bangalore
hey prachi,
i do really agree with all our frnds but i think its time to play smartly.... i m sure u must have tried your best to convience the director... and hes not in a mood to listen to any1.. then i think that who can get u the breakthru from this situation is his WIFE!
Try counselling her.. i knw u dont have to explain the things to her as she must be aware of it or may be she is only the creator of this problem but still try to speak to and covience her in a way tht she accepts tht this kind of discrimination is not proffesionalism. convience her and convey the message indirectly to ur director.
I think this should work if u protray it a good way.. as u are aware of each and every move of ur director.....
hope this works for you
all the best and keep us informed as if we could help u.
bijal
From India, Pune
i do really agree with all our frnds but i think its time to play smartly.... i m sure u must have tried your best to convience the director... and hes not in a mood to listen to any1.. then i think that who can get u the breakthru from this situation is his WIFE!
Try counselling her.. i knw u dont have to explain the things to her as she must be aware of it or may be she is only the creator of this problem but still try to speak to and covience her in a way tht she accepts tht this kind of discrimination is not proffesionalism. convience her and convey the message indirectly to ur director.
I think this should work if u protray it a good way.. as u are aware of each and every move of ur director.....
hope this works for you
all the best and keep us informed as if we could help u.
bijal
From India, Pune
Dear Prachi,
I fail to understand how a senior person of a director level can act so much immaturish. Secondly how a direcor's spouse is allowed to work in the same premises or same coy. If he wishes to quit i guess he is doing a good favour on the company.
Amit Shelar
From India, Mumbai
I fail to understand how a senior person of a director level can act so much immaturish. Secondly how a direcor's spouse is allowed to work in the same premises or same coy. If he wishes to quit i guess he is doing a good favour on the company.
Amit Shelar
From India, Mumbai
Dear Prachi,
If your company really wants to keep him back and agree with all things that he keeps asking in the coming days also. Than i would like to suggest you to speak to that person saying that company will arrange a get togther party (reason for this try to find out some it may be coz they both got married or someother). But important point in this should be you need to annouce that this is organised by that particular person and on the other side company should take all the expenses of that party which should not be known to others.
By this you may get a chance to keep him back in organisation and other employees will not come to know that company will do such things to keep back a person. This may not be the correct way of handling i do agree, but depending on the case you need to go with that so i have suggested this idea.
But as Harshad as mentioned what will your company do if in the coming days he will come back for everything about his wife. So better replace him right now or if your company wants him back try to do as suggested above and also try to convenice your management to start looking for replacement.
I know this idea will certainly not sound good at times, but in case to gain something you need to loose something and in most of the cases like this it will be Money.
Let us know what will be the result at last.
Regards
Amith R.
From India, Bangalore
If your company really wants to keep him back and agree with all things that he keeps asking in the coming days also. Than i would like to suggest you to speak to that person saying that company will arrange a get togther party (reason for this try to find out some it may be coz they both got married or someother). But important point in this should be you need to annouce that this is organised by that particular person and on the other side company should take all the expenses of that party which should not be known to others.
By this you may get a chance to keep him back in organisation and other employees will not come to know that company will do such things to keep back a person. This may not be the correct way of handling i do agree, but depending on the case you need to go with that so i have suggested this idea.
But as Harshad as mentioned what will your company do if in the coming days he will come back for everything about his wife. So better replace him right now or if your company wants him back try to do as suggested above and also try to convenice your management to start looking for replacement.
I know this idea will certainly not sound good at times, but in case to gain something you need to loose something and in most of the cases like this it will be Money.
Let us know what will be the result at last.
Regards
Amith R.
From India, Bangalore
Dear Prachi,
What I feel is company shouldn't discriminate employees atleast for birthday parties. As birthday for every employee is as special as for any senior employee. You should start celebrating birthday in same manner as you are celebrating it for senior employees.
Regards
Shaloo
From India, Chandigarh
What I feel is company shouldn't discriminate employees atleast for birthday parties. As birthday for every employee is as special as for any senior employee. You should start celebrating birthday in same manner as you are celebrating it for senior employees.
Regards
Shaloo
From India, Chandigarh
Rules Should Never Be Bent, But They Can Be Updated To Cover More Scenarios.........
It is also very realistic that a wife may nagg her husband about some office issues, at home...wives who are not working or working in other companies, do that, so it is a realistic possibility that his wife can also do it. No sane professional may act in this way, other than in the case wherin he has found abetter job or has decided to quit.....my suggestion, let him go or if he wishes to stay, find a new & higher designation outside the company....i am sure you have ways to do this..........
From India, Pune
It is also very realistic that a wife may nagg her husband about some office issues, at home...wives who are not working or working in other companies, do that, so it is a realistic possibility that his wife can also do it. No sane professional may act in this way, other than in the case wherin he has found abetter job or has decided to quit.....my suggestion, let him go or if he wishes to stay, find a new & higher designation outside the company....i am sure you have ways to do this..........
From India, Pune
Dear Prachi,
I do agree with Shaloo but in your case this is not the right time to think about changing Birthday Policy. Well i mean to say do give a thought on this after this problem is solved, you can reduce the budget of seniors celebration and increase the same for juniors this may not effect overall budget.
Regards
Amith R.
From India, Bangalore
I do agree with Shaloo but in your case this is not the right time to think about changing Birthday Policy. Well i mean to say do give a thought on this after this problem is solved, you can reduce the budget of seniors celebration and increase the same for juniors this may not effect overall budget.
Regards
Amith R.
From India, Bangalore
Hello everyone,
I am also relatively new to the group and this looks like a real interesting scenario. I agree with Riyaz. It is a difficult situation, but prachi, I really think that this behaviour cannot be accepted, at least from a person of that level.
You might need to talk to your management and subtly put your views across on this front. You might also want to check if there are any strings attached to this kind of behaviour, in terms of his attitude otherwise. His being in the organization for a long time should also help you get this info. It might help you get a better dimension to the whole issue.
Also, as Riyaz rightly pointed out, if this has no past history ... the, who knows he may be asking for her promotion next !!!!!
Cheers ..
Aarthi
From India, Gurgaon
I am also relatively new to the group and this looks like a real interesting scenario. I agree with Riyaz. It is a difficult situation, but prachi, I really think that this behaviour cannot be accepted, at least from a person of that level.
You might need to talk to your management and subtly put your views across on this front. You might also want to check if there are any strings attached to this kind of behaviour, in terms of his attitude otherwise. His being in the organization for a long time should also help you get this info. It might help you get a better dimension to the whole issue.
Also, as Riyaz rightly pointed out, if this has no past history ... the, who knows he may be asking for her promotion next !!!!!
Cheers ..
Aarthi
From India, Gurgaon
Well... Mr. Sri naren,
Every coin has 2 side.
I agree that being the wife of a sirector she definately deserves a special honour due.
So at the time of her husband's bday let her be given a specail red carpet treatment - being the wife of a director
But can u apply the same for her husband also
Can he be treated as a husband of any normal employee?
Can u do it....
If the matter is so sensitive then possbly the chairman, president or the owner of the company take the lead at this level......
From United States
Every coin has 2 side.
I agree that being the wife of a sirector she definately deserves a special honour due.
So at the time of her husband's bday let her be given a specail red carpet treatment - being the wife of a director
But can u apply the same for her husband also
Can he be treated as a husband of any normal employee?
Can u do it....
If the matter is so sensitive then possbly the chairman, president or the owner of the company take the lead at this level......
From United States
Hi Bharathi Sarkar,
As you said being the wife of a director she definitely deserves a special honour! But she need not be given Special Red Carpet treatment during her Husband's birthday celebrations but she may be given lead to the celebrations.
Your question - Can he be treated as a husband of any normal employee? Can you do it....?
The answer is - Yes, can be treated as a husband of any normal employee provided he is not a Director or a Top Management Person.
The whole issue has arised because the girl is the wife of a Director. Irrespective of in which cadre she is, she deserves higher status in that company as her husband is the Director of the company.
Being the Director of the company, he has every right to expect that his wife be given higher status than the normal employees.
There is no need for the Chariman, President or the Owner of the company to take the lead as they also expect that their wives - whether they work in the same company or not, be treated specially and they deserve so.
Regards
Srinaren
From India, Bangalore
As you said being the wife of a director she definitely deserves a special honour! But she need not be given Special Red Carpet treatment during her Husband's birthday celebrations but she may be given lead to the celebrations.
Your question - Can he be treated as a husband of any normal employee? Can you do it....?
The answer is - Yes, can be treated as a husband of any normal employee provided he is not a Director or a Top Management Person.
The whole issue has arised because the girl is the wife of a Director. Irrespective of in which cadre she is, she deserves higher status in that company as her husband is the Director of the company.
Being the Director of the company, he has every right to expect that his wife be given higher status than the normal employees.
There is no need for the Chariman, President or the Owner of the company to take the lead as they also expect that their wives - whether they work in the same company or not, be treated specially and they deserve so.
Regards
Srinaren
From India, Bangalore
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