dear anon
COOL IT
HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU WILL FIGHT AND AT HOW MANY PLACES U WILL FIGHT.
AFTER A FIGHT WHEN WILL YOU MAKE UP AND ACHIEVE A FRIENDLY ENVIRONMENT TO WORK.
1. CHODO YAAR BHOLO MERE UPAR CHIPAKTA NAHIN AND FORGET IT
2. LEARN A LESSON FROM BHARATI WHO IS EXTRODINARILY FAT AND HAS MADE A HIT IN THE KAPIL SHOW , DANCING SHOW AND OTHER SHOWS
3. BEING FAT IS A GOD GIVEN GIFT AND NOT AVAILABLE TO PEOPLE WITH A SMALL HEART. SAY I HAVE A BIG HEART TO FORGIVE YOU AND CARRY NO GRUDGES.
4. KHISBOO ATTAIRE. . IF YOU ARE BEING TITLED KUSHBOO FOR YOUR DRESS SENSE , TAKE A CONGRATULATIONS FROM ME ALSO . FLASHY DRESS ONLY SMART PEOPLE CAN WEAR AND CARRY IT . BE BINDAAZ CHILD AND SAY SUPER . BUY DRESSES OF YOUR CHOICE , FLASHY IF U WANT AND ENJOY IT AND SHOW OFF.TO OTHERS LIKE TUNTUN OF OUR DAYS .
DALE CARNIGE A FAMOUS AUTHOR ON BEHAVIOUR SAID . TAKE CRITICISM AS RAIN AND HOLD A MENTAL UMBRELLA , IT WONT FALL ON YOU.
ON THE CONTRARY IF IT WAS A PROFESSIONAL COMMENT ON YOUR PERFORMANCE TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.
GOD BLESS YOU . DONT LET THESE GUYS DISTURB YOUR SLEEP AND PEACE OF MIND .
LIFE IS GREAT . FATNESS IS A GIFT. A FAT BODY A BIG HEART AND FLASHY DRESSES YOU MUST BE THE CHOICE OF ALL BRIDE SEEKERS.
BLESSINGS
DR RAM
COOL HAVE A PEACEFUL SLEEP AND FORGET IT . DONT SULK, THEY WILL APOLOGIZE ON THEIR OWN AND SAY I AM SORRY . TELL THEM I HAVE A BIG HEART TO FORGIVE YOU .
From India, Indore
COOL IT
HOW MANY PEOPLE YOU WILL FIGHT AND AT HOW MANY PLACES U WILL FIGHT.
AFTER A FIGHT WHEN WILL YOU MAKE UP AND ACHIEVE A FRIENDLY ENVIRONMENT TO WORK.
1. CHODO YAAR BHOLO MERE UPAR CHIPAKTA NAHIN AND FORGET IT
2. LEARN A LESSON FROM BHARATI WHO IS EXTRODINARILY FAT AND HAS MADE A HIT IN THE KAPIL SHOW , DANCING SHOW AND OTHER SHOWS
3. BEING FAT IS A GOD GIVEN GIFT AND NOT AVAILABLE TO PEOPLE WITH A SMALL HEART. SAY I HAVE A BIG HEART TO FORGIVE YOU AND CARRY NO GRUDGES.
4. KHISBOO ATTAIRE. . IF YOU ARE BEING TITLED KUSHBOO FOR YOUR DRESS SENSE , TAKE A CONGRATULATIONS FROM ME ALSO . FLASHY DRESS ONLY SMART PEOPLE CAN WEAR AND CARRY IT . BE BINDAAZ CHILD AND SAY SUPER . BUY DRESSES OF YOUR CHOICE , FLASHY IF U WANT AND ENJOY IT AND SHOW OFF.TO OTHERS LIKE TUNTUN OF OUR DAYS .
DALE CARNIGE A FAMOUS AUTHOR ON BEHAVIOUR SAID . TAKE CRITICISM AS RAIN AND HOLD A MENTAL UMBRELLA , IT WONT FALL ON YOU.
ON THE CONTRARY IF IT WAS A PROFESSIONAL COMMENT ON YOUR PERFORMANCE TAKE IT SERIOUSLY.
GOD BLESS YOU . DONT LET THESE GUYS DISTURB YOUR SLEEP AND PEACE OF MIND .
LIFE IS GREAT . FATNESS IS A GIFT. A FAT BODY A BIG HEART AND FLASHY DRESSES YOU MUST BE THE CHOICE OF ALL BRIDE SEEKERS.
BLESSINGS
DR RAM
COOL HAVE A PEACEFUL SLEEP AND FORGET IT . DONT SULK, THEY WILL APOLOGIZE ON THEIR OWN AND SAY I AM SORRY . TELL THEM I HAVE A BIG HEART TO FORGIVE YOU .
From India, Indore
This kind of behavior of an executive is outrageous. In my country, this would entail immediate dismissal and the person would be liable to be arrested. Would this not amount to sexual harassment or verbal/mental harassment in India. Is there not a human rights agency where you can take this issue up. If you let these guys go, then this could give them more courage to resort to much more outrageous things. You must take it up strongly and bring them to book.
From Indonesia, Jakarta
From Indonesia, Jakarta
i do agree with the views of above and disagree to some extent
1. it is a normal practice in the office that each and every employee wants to pass comments on their fellow colleagues but how far it should be
2. some may take it sportively and some may take as seriously { we heard in our media that an employee in bangalore has committed suicide by not bearing the comments of her fellow colleagues as she is FAT}here whom we should make responsible
3. quotations may work to some extent but if the same employee is sensitive and what he can do only receives but cannot fight against it.
4. here hr person itself is at receiving end and what about the other employees - how far it may go
hr employee has to frame policy to restrict such practice in the work place keeping the environment friendly without making other employee to harass others so that harassing employee has to think twice while commenting
5. above he said the office employee commented as he is fat and he has responded quickly by talking to his seniors and if other person could not respond and silently bears the agony and if he takes any sad step who is responsible
so hr department has to frame policy where they can initiate steps to stop such harassment and also may give punishment like stopping their increment or any other step etc.,
From India, Hyderabad
1. it is a normal practice in the office that each and every employee wants to pass comments on their fellow colleagues but how far it should be
2. some may take it sportively and some may take as seriously { we heard in our media that an employee in bangalore has committed suicide by not bearing the comments of her fellow colleagues as she is FAT}here whom we should make responsible
3. quotations may work to some extent but if the same employee is sensitive and what he can do only receives but cannot fight against it.
4. here hr person itself is at receiving end and what about the other employees - how far it may go
hr employee has to frame policy to restrict such practice in the work place keeping the environment friendly without making other employee to harass others so that harassing employee has to think twice while commenting
5. above he said the office employee commented as he is fat and he has responded quickly by talking to his seniors and if other person could not respond and silently bears the agony and if he takes any sad step who is responsible
so hr department has to frame policy where they can initiate steps to stop such harassment and also may give punishment like stopping their increment or any other step etc.,
From India, Hyderabad
I am Also hr Person use to face a same situation in the office but i was not taking it serious
and thought of Myself if i reduce my and become slim nobody will comment on i need to loose my self esteem and i tried Herbalife\'s Weight lose program within one month i last my 4 kg Weight naturally
really and after that the same people who used comment badly started calling me hero
and still i am using the products again in one more month i lost Several KG\'s to maintain my Health and now i look like small boy of the age 19 to 20 so if you don\'t mind you can use the same and
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From India, Bangalore
and thought of Myself if i reduce my and become slim nobody will comment on i need to loose my self esteem and i tried Herbalife\'s Weight lose program within one month i last my 4 kg Weight naturally
really and after that the same people who used comment badly started calling me hero
and still i am using the products again in one more month i lost Several KG\'s to maintain my Health and now i look like small boy of the age 19 to 20 so if you don\'t mind you can use the same and
look good naturally if you want any more information you can contact on below number
9739298286
From India, Bangalore
You dealt with the situation very well. I totally disagree with people saying that, "these things happen", "will you fight with everyone" or "you should take it as a compliment". I think for such situations one should confront the culprit at the very first time. Official channels don't do any good and nobody will support you. You have to deal with such incidents yourself.
You did the right thing by confronting them directly. You are brave.
One more point I would like to make is that one should not be emotionally vulnerable to what people say. It should not affect you if you think you are right. But it doesn't mean that you should let people say anything. Just take them head on.
(views are based upon my personal experiences, although situations have been different)
From India, New Delhi
You did the right thing by confronting them directly. You are brave.
One more point I would like to make is that one should not be emotionally vulnerable to what people say. It should not affect you if you think you are right. But it doesn't mean that you should let people say anything. Just take them head on.
(views are based upon my personal experiences, although situations have been different)
From India, New Delhi
Hi ALL
Having 26 Years experienced in private industry, it is not advisable to confront with his own boss, as the scene will get reversed. Instead of understanding the problem, HR Exec. will be harrassed for all petty reasons. Hence, one should talk to his own boss who made comment and get it resolved and try not repeat the same
Regards
From India, Hyderabad
Having 26 Years experienced in private industry, it is not advisable to confront with his own boss, as the scene will get reversed. Instead of understanding the problem, HR Exec. will be harrassed for all petty reasons. Hence, one should talk to his own boss who made comment and get it resolved and try not repeat the same
Regards
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Lady,
What you did was correct.But do not let it affect you in any fashion.I am aware that saying so is easy whereas to forget and forgive someone for such remark is not easy.
If, I was a lady and such remarks were passed about me, I would not have spared the person.Irrespective of consequences.May be my response is due to my background.
Once again well done and hats off for not ignoring the incident.
May God Bless you .
Regards,
Col.Rathi
From India, Delhi
What you did was correct.But do not let it affect you in any fashion.I am aware that saying so is easy whereas to forget and forgive someone for such remark is not easy.
If, I was a lady and such remarks were passed about me, I would not have spared the person.Irrespective of consequences.May be my response is due to my background.
Once again well done and hats off for not ignoring the incident.
May God Bless you .
Regards,
Col.Rathi
From India, Delhi
Very funny. Are u really serious on such comments?. Relax and concentrate on your work. — — — — — - pon
From India, Lucknow
From India, Lucknow
This sort of response coming from a lady is shocking. A human being must be respected for what he/she is and not for her size. A working woman is a sister, daughter, mother, wife of someone. She is not an object of lust in the office space or for that matter anywhere. Why must anyone lose weight to become presentable to some ill behaved guy in the office. It's a personal choice of someone to lose weight or not to lose weight. No one has a right to attack someone's self respect.
It is appalling that many professionals here are advising the lady to take these things on her stride. Why must she take it in her stride. No one works in a place to lose one's self esteem and to be taunted in this manner. It is shameful to see educated people advising a lady to withstand such nonsense. Really shameful. These kind of blokes must be butchered, since these are the type of guys, in a way, facilitate all the crime against woman, because the guy committing the crime knows that such characters will ignore such misbehavior towards women and they are safe while committing the crime. Really shameful that such facilitators are lurking in this forum.
From Indonesia, Jakarta
It is appalling that many professionals here are advising the lady to take these things on her stride. Why must she take it in her stride. No one works in a place to lose one's self esteem and to be taunted in this manner. It is shameful to see educated people advising a lady to withstand such nonsense. Really shameful. These kind of blokes must be butchered, since these are the type of guys, in a way, facilitate all the crime against woman, because the guy committing the crime knows that such characters will ignore such misbehavior towards women and they are safe while committing the crime. Really shameful that such facilitators are lurking in this forum.
From Indonesia, Jakarta
The action taken by the lady was, in my opinion, an appropriate response.
I don't agree with the 2 extreme views here, one advocating no action annd the other severe action.
While we are all professionals, it must be noted that people will pass comments and have opinions, office gossip is a reality. I don't think the two accused had any malicious intent while making those comments, anymore than a group of ladies in an office discussing their male colleagues.If there is anyone who believes that people don't gossip about their office colleagues, they are naive or foolish.
Everyone talks of others, and any group will discuss office colleagues, the punishment here was for them being indiscreet enough to let the lady over hear them talking.
regards,
Gokul
From India, Madras
I don't agree with the 2 extreme views here, one advocating no action annd the other severe action.
While we are all professionals, it must be noted that people will pass comments and have opinions, office gossip is a reality. I don't think the two accused had any malicious intent while making those comments, anymore than a group of ladies in an office discussing their male colleagues.If there is anyone who believes that people don't gossip about their office colleagues, they are naive or foolish.
Everyone talks of others, and any group will discuss office colleagues, the punishment here was for them being indiscreet enough to let the lady over hear them talking.
regards,
Gokul
From India, Madras
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