Sari
Do not interfere with others personal life. You actually have no right to do so not even to discuss about it in society or even with your friends on sites like this. Do not open such personal matters to any one except when it is your personal matter. You are there to manage the employees and to get performances from them , your concern should be on their work, Don't use bad words like polluting the environment etc. because what ever they are doing is not pollution nor extra marital affair is a bad thing, Sex is a human Right given by nature,even though it is not a happy thing for a wife or husband being infidel to each other but these kind of affairs are just outcome of a narrow minded society. Sari you just have to be an open mind to understand your limits and actions. Just concentrate on your work that is your limit and act accordingly to make your organization flourish and profit and stop interfering with others personal life because this is called polluting which you or your team members are doing, not them. Tell your team members to behave like mature adults not like school kids.
From India, Belgaum
Do not interfere with others personal life. You actually have no right to do so not even to discuss about it in society or even with your friends on sites like this. Do not open such personal matters to any one except when it is your personal matter. You are there to manage the employees and to get performances from them , your concern should be on their work, Don't use bad words like polluting the environment etc. because what ever they are doing is not pollution nor extra marital affair is a bad thing, Sex is a human Right given by nature,even though it is not a happy thing for a wife or husband being infidel to each other but these kind of affairs are just outcome of a narrow minded society. Sari you just have to be an open mind to understand your limits and actions. Just concentrate on your work that is your limit and act accordingly to make your organization flourish and profit and stop interfering with others personal life because this is called polluting which you or your team members are doing, not them. Tell your team members to behave like mature adults not like school kids.
From India, Belgaum
Dear sari,
do not inform her hursband and familiy members on her affairs. if you did so, in case any thing go wrong you will be in pin point. Counsel her personally and explain the consequences she is going to face if she continue the same......... At the same time watch her boy friend carefully and try to find out his mistake to take action
good luck
From India
do not inform her hursband and familiy members on her affairs. if you did so, in case any thing go wrong you will be in pin point. Counsel her personally and explain the consequences she is going to face if she continue the same......... At the same time watch her boy friend carefully and try to find out his mistake to take action
good luck
From India
friends lets not be detrimentally judgemental. i am not prepared to believe that the two colleagues under scrutiny or censure are so naive nincompoops that they openly indulge in amorous advances,talk shalk at the expense of office timings,seen sighing for each other,having prolonged tele talks, found togfether in a remote corneri n compromising position,etc. etc. as long as it does not affect their performance or threaten a moral; hazard in the work environment let them be. what just cause can the management show ? you may of course caution for better discipline and congenial productive workplace but what do you charge them with, sexual harrassment/abuse/immorality/lewd behavior/indecent office exposure or or ...take it easy folks ..only if some of their sane fellow workers had a talk to be discreet and not be overtly lovebirds(i gather they show no signs of that in office) they ought to have taken heed... why wash someones dirty linen in public , let me add though that good food for thought and an exercise in academics for such happenings are not uncommon
From Pakistan, Lahore
From Pakistan, Lahore
dear sari, i think you should talk to her before taking any rash action against her if you suggection neglect to so quck the last action your Thanks.... deepak executive Hr
From India, Mumbai
1From India, Mumbai
Hi
I dont agree with what the one and only Ravi is saying, to inform his/her family. We are professionals if you have problem, even before you talk to the person concerned please ensure you have enough evidence. If you have enough evidence on the issue talk to the person directly and demand explanation. If you are not convinced inform him/her if this is to continue that you would recommend disciplinary action (Termination) or suggest her to put up her resignation as soon as she finds another job.
Extra mariatal affairs can not be proved in the court unless you catch them red handed and take them for medical check. For some reason if the husband support his wife and go to the court and sue the company for defamation ................................
Take a proessional approach and dont be emotional.
From Bahrain, Manama
I dont agree with what the one and only Ravi is saying, to inform his/her family. We are professionals if you have problem, even before you talk to the person concerned please ensure you have enough evidence. If you have enough evidence on the issue talk to the person directly and demand explanation. If you are not convinced inform him/her if this is to continue that you would recommend disciplinary action (Termination) or suggest her to put up her resignation as soon as she finds another job.
Extra mariatal affairs can not be proved in the court unless you catch them red handed and take them for medical check. For some reason if the husband support his wife and go to the court and sue the company for defamation ................................
Take a proessional approach and dont be emotional.
From Bahrain, Manama
Dear Sari,
I think you need to speak to her in a seperate cabin, and disc the situation. After convey your msg to her kindly observe the same for next 10 days. If you still find the problem has not sort out. Speak to the Sr. Managers and try to close the case after issuing a letter.
Thanks
Kapil Kotwal
Manager-HR
From India, Gurgaon
I think you need to speak to her in a seperate cabin, and disc the situation. After convey your msg to her kindly observe the same for next 10 days. If you still find the problem has not sort out. Speak to the Sr. Managers and try to close the case after issuing a letter.
Thanks
Kapil Kotwal
Manager-HR
From India, Gurgaon
First thing is to check your company policy. Certain companies have policies that do not encourage personal affairs within the same team or department; but this is in relation to provide a favorable work environment to all the team members. So there are two things here - 1) If the personal affair is spilling onto public displays of affection. The company's policy should be a good hold to handle this situation easily. 2) If it is just a personal affair, and is not disturbing the work situation in any way, and is not hampering the performance of the employees then in most cases than not, an organization cannot interfere. Unless as I said before, if the company policy discourages personal affairs within the team.
Subjective opinions of fellow team members cannot be a reason to reprimand the employees. This is another example where the importance to understand the company's culture, values, and policies comes to the fore. Discretion should be exercised keeping in mind the company's culture, values and policies and not based on individuals' culture, and values - these can be very different from person to person.
From India, Madras
Subjective opinions of fellow team members cannot be a reason to reprimand the employees. This is another example where the importance to understand the company's culture, values, and policies comes to the fore. Discretion should be exercised keeping in mind the company's culture, values and policies and not based on individuals' culture, and values - these can be very different from person to person.
From India, Madras
How do you define extra marital affair. Once you have done that.. on what evidence and proof you have to arrive at this judgement.
Secondly, if the two employees involved in the so called affair are not in anyway disrupting there work routines, performance and decorum in the office, I think its not good to interfere in personal lives of other people.
We all know that an extra marital affair is morally wrong. The wrong is by both parties to it. Whether married or not. So the unmarried male employee is also at fault.
As far this case goes the organisation has no moral authority to interfere in the personal lives of the two individuals as long as they are good performers and not shirking their work.
Best for each and every employee is to mind his or her own business and concentrate on their work. Many a time it is the idle mind that works in different directions that are unproductive and totally out of focus.
This case gives no legal or moral authority to HR or any of the staff members to interfere in the life of either the lady or the man in question unless they are engaging in sexual activity inside the office premises.
From India
Secondly, if the two employees involved in the so called affair are not in anyway disrupting there work routines, performance and decorum in the office, I think its not good to interfere in personal lives of other people.
We all know that an extra marital affair is morally wrong. The wrong is by both parties to it. Whether married or not. So the unmarried male employee is also at fault.
As far this case goes the organisation has no moral authority to interfere in the personal lives of the two individuals as long as they are good performers and not shirking their work.
Best for each and every employee is to mind his or her own business and concentrate on their work. Many a time it is the idle mind that works in different directions that are unproductive and totally out of focus.
This case gives no legal or moral authority to HR or any of the staff members to interfere in the life of either the lady or the man in question unless they are engaging in sexual activity inside the office premises.
From India
Hi,
I think a person goes to office for work. and if a collegue is engaged in an extra marital affiar, then its his/her problem, u should not think of divert ur attention on that. What i feel is, u can control ur own action and not others.
If the employees start giving importance then obviously work is left out and all negavtiv things come in.
Well for me it is very simple, Just do ur work, be happy and dont get involved in unnecessary gossip about the girl/boy.
Warm Regards,
Vikas Goel
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From India, Mumbai
I think a person goes to office for work. and if a collegue is engaged in an extra marital affiar, then its his/her problem, u should not think of divert ur attention on that. What i feel is, u can control ur own action and not others.
If the employees start giving importance then obviously work is left out and all negavtiv things come in.
Well for me it is very simple, Just do ur work, be happy and dont get involved in unnecessary gossip about the girl/boy.
Warm Regards,
Vikas Goel
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From India, Mumbai
Hi All,
As far as their behaviour does not affect their work, its their personal life. They have the freedom to do whatever. And in case you actually decide to take any action then it should be taken against both of them, they are equally responsible. Why should only one of them pay for it???
From India, Mumbai
As far as their behaviour does not affect their work, its their personal life. They have the freedom to do whatever. And in case you actually decide to take any action then it should be taken against both of them, they are equally responsible. Why should only one of them pay for it???
From India, Mumbai
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