Hello Everyone,
I have been working in Media Company since 3 months in Agra where the thinking of the people is very rigid & they are not willing to change... Moreover, as I've heard from my HR Manager & other colleagues that people are so negative & spread rumors when girls employee talk to male employees because of which am not able to talk much .. & even male employees are hesitant to talk as rumors of affairs may take place....
Even our CMD boss doesn't appreciates or likes when male employees talk to girls.. Plz suggest what can be done as we can't change people's way of thinking and where our Seniors & CMD sir also doen't likes :(
From India, Agra
I have been working in Media Company since 3 months in Agra where the thinking of the people is very rigid & they are not willing to change... Moreover, as I've heard from my HR Manager & other colleagues that people are so negative & spread rumors when girls employee talk to male employees because of which am not able to talk much .. & even male employees are hesitant to talk as rumors of affairs may take place....
Even our CMD boss doesn't appreciates or likes when male employees talk to girls.. Plz suggest what can be done as we can't change people's way of thinking and where our Seniors & CMD sir also doen't likes :(
From India, Agra
Hi Kriti,
Be bold thats it. People in initial stage may pass comments directly or indirectly. later they will also change. if u have no problem then dont bother about others. but at the same time keep your work done on time.
people are educated but not brodminded i call them educated illitrates chill out & enjoy ur life than thinking of others.
From India, Bangalore
21Be bold thats it. People in initial stage may pass comments directly or indirectly. later they will also change. if u have no problem then dont bother about others. but at the same time keep your work done on time.
people are educated but not brodminded i call them educated illitrates chill out & enjoy ur life than thinking of others.
From India, Bangalore
Well this is human nature we can’t change, and thanks to our country culture where still we think unenthusiastic once the female colleague gossip to male.
(Frankly sometimes me to, but ignore it.)
As per my opinion If we are good then whole world is Good. (If we are negative then whole world is wrong)
So, as far as if you didn’t have any wrong intention or thinking to talk with your associate then, no need to fear any one. (But you should respect your senior/managers, as this is also one of our country culture to respect others.)
Coming to the point, below is some tips further to avoid any more tragedy.
1, Kindly avoid to talk male colleague in front of your senior/managers.
2, Kindly avoid your frustration in front of senior/managers, and keep smiling as smile is the best cure for all problems.
3, Communicate with your senior/managers regarding your open mind and try to convince them that you are modern type and didn’t believe in affairs etc.
Even you can say that you belongs to Reputed family and this things doesn’t suit you.
4, Convince them that you are junior and needs to gain lots of knowledge/experience in regards to Work, and doesn’t have time for any unwanted activity like affairs etc.
5, lastly, we can’t change the thinking of the peoples, but we can make them understand by presenting ourself in a better way.
Thank you,
From Kuwait, Hawalli
(Frankly sometimes me to, but ignore it.)
As per my opinion If we are good then whole world is Good. (If we are negative then whole world is wrong)
So, as far as if you didn’t have any wrong intention or thinking to talk with your associate then, no need to fear any one. (But you should respect your senior/managers, as this is also one of our country culture to respect others.)
Coming to the point, below is some tips further to avoid any more tragedy.
1, Kindly avoid to talk male colleague in front of your senior/managers.
2, Kindly avoid your frustration in front of senior/managers, and keep smiling as smile is the best cure for all problems.
3, Communicate with your senior/managers regarding your open mind and try to convince them that you are modern type and didn’t believe in affairs etc.
Even you can say that you belongs to Reputed family and this things doesn’t suit you.
4, Convince them that you are junior and needs to gain lots of knowledge/experience in regards to Work, and doesn’t have time for any unwanted activity like affairs etc.
5, lastly, we can’t change the thinking of the peoples, but we can make them understand by presenting ourself in a better way.
Thank you,
From Kuwait, Hawalli
Seriously we all need to think on it. But as per my view many times we are also facing such issue in our organization. People are so selfish for their work and always involved in bitching.
My strategy of working is different; I love to work while I am in the office and never allow to interfere anybody in my personal life.
So you should also concentrate on your work and do not allow people to interfere in your personal and professional life. If you are fare enough than no body dare s to say anything about you. No matter with whom you are talking or where u r going! Live like king.
Sunita Sandhu
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From India, Delhi
Dear Kriti what I suggest you is..Just say that you are engaged or commited to a guy.This way you can avoid the gossips at office. Regards, Anu Sr.Process Associate - Human Resources.
From India, Mumbai
From India, Mumbai
Hi Kriti,
Sometimes the office cultre demands you to behave in a certain way that sometimes may not be the way you are used to.
In organisations like the one you are in, are indeed very old school in their thought and mindset.
What i sincerely suggest is that if you are new to the company, take your time to settle down and then try to change the way things are.
An office culture is normally not that easy to change and do not give them an impression that a girl who is come in yesterday( in this case ..you) is trying to change things that have been going on for quite some time.. give them time to understand you and then go about with changing things
From India, Mumbai
Sometimes the office cultre demands you to behave in a certain way that sometimes may not be the way you are used to.
In organisations like the one you are in, are indeed very old school in their thought and mindset.
What i sincerely suggest is that if you are new to the company, take your time to settle down and then try to change the way things are.
An office culture is normally not that easy to change and do not give them an impression that a girl who is come in yesterday( in this case ..you) is trying to change things that have been going on for quite some time.. give them time to understand you and then go about with changing things
From India, Mumbai
Dear Kriti,
Please be bold. Many a times we have to change ourself to the environment. The people here are really not the broad minded. So being a girl and at HR portfolio u need to have an balance approach. You should be genuine in your talks with all irrespective of gender. The need of your profession is to converse so u cannot sit in isolation. Genuineness in your behaviour will help u out in long run. the people in general will understand u after u have passed some time and will generate respect and concern for u if u are really professional. At the same time do not get engaged 2 much in talks with single individual and also do not provide opportunity of exaggerated personal relationship at work place. Avoid indulging with same employee on many issues. However this all suggestion is applicable for public life, but word of caution is that, the private life will soon start impacting upon the public life. I hope these behavioral skills will help u a lot.
WITH WARM WISHES,
DS
From India, Kanpur
Please be bold. Many a times we have to change ourself to the environment. The people here are really not the broad minded. So being a girl and at HR portfolio u need to have an balance approach. You should be genuine in your talks with all irrespective of gender. The need of your profession is to converse so u cannot sit in isolation. Genuineness in your behaviour will help u out in long run. the people in general will understand u after u have passed some time and will generate respect and concern for u if u are really professional. At the same time do not get engaged 2 much in talks with single individual and also do not provide opportunity of exaggerated personal relationship at work place. Avoid indulging with same employee on many issues. However this all suggestion is applicable for public life, but word of caution is that, the private life will soon start impacting upon the public life. I hope these behavioral skills will help u a lot.
WITH WARM WISHES,
DS
From India, Kanpur
Dear Kriti
If you really want to change your employees mentality/Attitude/Behaviour, kindly feel free to hire my services.
Though its a human nature, I guarantee your changes and the whole process is time bound....
with profound regards
From India, Chennai
If you really want to change your employees mentality/Attitude/Behaviour, kindly feel free to hire my services.
Though its a human nature, I guarantee your changes and the whole process is time bound....
with profound regards
From India, Chennai
Hi Kriti,
You have great comments there. I would go by Drmz... He is right... At the same time, you might want to be professional and specific when you talk. It doesn't matter if we talk less at times, it helps get the ears of the others... :-)
From United States, Daphne
You have great comments there. I would go by Drmz... He is right... At the same time, you might want to be professional and specific when you talk. It doesn't matter if we talk less at times, it helps get the ears of the others... :-)
From United States, Daphne
Hi Kirti,
Many years back i watched one movie and i got understand that if you want to be deferent from others, should act differently.
Don't so afraid in this kind of problem because every step we walk, get problems and we act accordingly.
Working in any culture is very difficult for every one (Man or woman) until they develop their personality trait or style.
See in your case your personality style trapped with these two instinct " Famous" and "infamous". and this can create stress in your mind and your efficiency towards work will decrease.
Here i am giving you some tips to get rid from your problem.
1. Be Composed , Cool and polite
2. Be good listener, don't go with gossips
3. Share your ideas with your seniors, peers and subordinates
4. Respect your seniors and respect your colleague, co-worker
5. Effectively communicate (Don't give any loos statement )
6. Always observe others and act accordingly
7. Give your result on time
8. Be emotional but act professionally
9. And last, faith in yourself.
Indulge yourself for doing the BEST rather good.
From India
Many years back i watched one movie and i got understand that if you want to be deferent from others, should act differently.
Don't so afraid in this kind of problem because every step we walk, get problems and we act accordingly.
Working in any culture is very difficult for every one (Man or woman) until they develop their personality trait or style.
See in your case your personality style trapped with these two instinct " Famous" and "infamous". and this can create stress in your mind and your efficiency towards work will decrease.
Here i am giving you some tips to get rid from your problem.
1. Be Composed , Cool and polite
2. Be good listener, don't go with gossips
3. Share your ideas with your seniors, peers and subordinates
4. Respect your seniors and respect your colleague, co-worker
5. Effectively communicate (Don't give any loos statement )
6. Always observe others and act accordingly
7. Give your result on time
8. Be emotional but act professionally
9. And last, faith in yourself.
Indulge yourself for doing the BEST rather good.
From India
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