There is one old adage "Familiarity brings differences". So the more u get familiar with other, differences starts...
From India, Vadodara
21From India, Vadodara
in love marriage a guy and gal themselves take a decision and marry(relations b4 marriage also), as indians our tradition s parents and elders will deciding 4 marriage
so if any probs with couples they try to solve it
in case of love marriage most parents and elders not like it and in fiture any probs between couples they dont mind it they think they choose there partner so they themselves cn solve the problems (expection cases are there)
From India, Kochi
so if any probs with couples they try to solve it
in case of love marriage most parents and elders not like it and in fiture any probs between couples they dont mind it they think they choose there partner so they themselves cn solve the problems (expection cases are there)
From India, Kochi
I m not agree with dis.. it depends on the understanding b/w the couples. Generally v say luv marriages r not successful as both of them but if u talk about arrange marriages u can find the same ration, even if it is less the only reason wud be the wife remains quite in most of the situations or nor expressing herself.
Wat i blv luv marriages r more successful if you giv enough time to each other...knw each othr n then go ahead with ur decision to get mrd only if you feel this is the right match for u. also it shud b wid the consent of ur parents... dont forget them :-)
From India, Delhi
Wat i blv luv marriages r more successful if you giv enough time to each other...knw each othr n then go ahead with ur decision to get mrd only if you feel this is the right match for u. also it shud b wid the consent of ur parents... dont forget them :-)
From India, Delhi
k i agree then whats the problem n luv marriage why it breakin??? i think itz the problem in understanding themselves
From India, Kochi
From India, Kochi
The problem that love marriage is not sucessfull, is that when you are in love, only your positive traits are shown to the other. Then the belief that you are such a good person comes to the lover's mind, but when it comes to marriage your positive trait as well as negative trait is displayed. Then sometimes, the other partner finds it difficult to cope up with it as his expectations does not match with that.
More than that as per the human psychology, if you put a packet and ask the persons not to open the same, then the tendency to open it will increase, but if you say nothing the packet will remain there untouched. Like that, as long as it is not yours, you will be more interested in it, and when it becomes yours and only yours, your interest declines.
snrktm
From India, Kochi
More than that as per the human psychology, if you put a packet and ask the persons not to open the same, then the tendency to open it will increase, but if you say nothing the packet will remain there untouched. Like that, as long as it is not yours, you will be more interested in it, and when it becomes yours and only yours, your interest declines.
snrktm
From India, Kochi
First if any marriage is not successful..means thats not love marrige at all............thats called MAPA ( Marraige after physical attraction)...Is love words has diff.meaning for each relation???
my mom loves me that is diff love..and a girl loves me and thats has diff meaning.............y this???
Love is single words..meaning is also same for each relation..but we really dont know......the meaning of love marraige..............you cant put love and breakup words together.....as like mom and son's love.......
so all marriage which is no longer is not love marraige at all...........that's MAPA......
Hence Proved.........
how many of you are agree with my view?????
From India, Pune
my mom loves me that is diff love..and a girl loves me and thats has diff meaning.............y this???
Love is single words..meaning is also same for each relation..but we really dont know......the meaning of love marraige..............you cant put love and breakup words together.....as like mom and son's love.......
so all marriage which is no longer is not love marraige at all...........that's MAPA......
Hence Proved.........
how many of you are agree with my view?????
From India, Pune
Dear Abhi I am not agreeing with you. There are a lot other reasons in a marriage to be successful and unsuccessful. Physical attraction is only one of those. understand Snrktm
From India, Kochi
From India, Kochi
Well according to me any Relation can only be made successful between two human beings due to many factors like love, sincerity, devotion and fairness to each other. All these factors are required for true and strong relations.
Now we come towards your question that love marriages are more successful or arrange marriages???
Both arrange and love mairrage can be successsful if there is mutual undersatnding.we cant not gurantee about arranged mairrage it will be a successful mairrage. The problem is not the type of mairrage but the main problem is lack of understanding.after mairrage people feel as if they are in bondage an they feel as if they have to abide by all the rules.if we realise mairrage as a commitment to our life partner and not as a bondage, then we will feel more free to dicuss all the issues of differences.
The other problem which i think is both with arranged mairrage and love mairrage is lack of coordination between the two partners. Every human being in this world is different, and even if u want to change your self according to the will of your partner it will take some time. so we should have patience and should help our mate to change those habits, but we should not expect a 100 percent drastic behavioural change .
The biggest problem with love mairrage is about the over expectatio, before mairrage lovers meet for few hours and then they will part away and oviously in those few hours they will have all those love and romantic chat. but when they get mairried everything changes. After mairrage you cant expect the same person should always available day and night for you to have romantic chat , after all life is not only romance. After mairrage there is so much responsibilities for both boys and girls.
The problem with arranged mairrage is again about expectations. We can not know about the nature of a particular person without knowing him/ her closely.Every boy and girl want his or her spouse to be very romantic undersatnding, loving caring , responsible, smart And intelligent. We cant not have so many expectation from a human being , after all every human being is having his or her flaws.
So basically a mairrage is commitment to your partner and you should have have patience for any person to change his or her behaviour..he or she should first listen to their partners carefully and should not have a cynical apporoach to each and every statement made by thier spouse.
From India, Amritsar
Now we come towards your question that love marriages are more successful or arrange marriages???
Both arrange and love mairrage can be successsful if there is mutual undersatnding.we cant not gurantee about arranged mairrage it will be a successful mairrage. The problem is not the type of mairrage but the main problem is lack of understanding.after mairrage people feel as if they are in bondage an they feel as if they have to abide by all the rules.if we realise mairrage as a commitment to our life partner and not as a bondage, then we will feel more free to dicuss all the issues of differences.
The other problem which i think is both with arranged mairrage and love mairrage is lack of coordination between the two partners. Every human being in this world is different, and even if u want to change your self according to the will of your partner it will take some time. so we should have patience and should help our mate to change those habits, but we should not expect a 100 percent drastic behavioural change .
The biggest problem with love mairrage is about the over expectatio, before mairrage lovers meet for few hours and then they will part away and oviously in those few hours they will have all those love and romantic chat. but when they get mairried everything changes. After mairrage you cant expect the same person should always available day and night for you to have romantic chat , after all life is not only romance. After mairrage there is so much responsibilities for both boys and girls.
The problem with arranged mairrage is again about expectations. We can not know about the nature of a particular person without knowing him/ her closely.Every boy and girl want his or her spouse to be very romantic undersatnding, loving caring , responsible, smart And intelligent. We cant not have so many expectation from a human being , after all every human being is having his or her flaws.
So basically a mairrage is commitment to your partner and you should have have patience for any person to change his or her behaviour..he or she should first listen to their partners carefully and should not have a cynical apporoach to each and every statement made by thier spouse.
From India, Amritsar
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