thanks all for ur suggestions,i vl certainly follow it. The user has removed the content of the thread.
From India, Thiruvananthapuram
From India, Thiruvananthapuram
Dear Barkha,
Is it possible for you to explain your priorities to these guys, if not directly then through the other girl? I think talking out is sometimes the best way to settle things. I reckon these guys are offended as you went 'complaining' to the CEO, and that's what has made the situation take an ugly turn. I still recommend, go to these guys, talk to them, explain your professional objectives and assure them to be "friends forever'. If this does not work, then quit.
And yes, a word of caution for you, be careful.
Prashant
From India, Delhi
25Is it possible for you to explain your priorities to these guys, if not directly then through the other girl? I think talking out is sometimes the best way to settle things. I reckon these guys are offended as you went 'complaining' to the CEO, and that's what has made the situation take an ugly turn. I still recommend, go to these guys, talk to them, explain your professional objectives and assure them to be "friends forever'. If this does not work, then quit.
And yes, a word of caution for you, be careful.
Prashant
From India, Delhi
Hello Barkha, I agree with Prashant....including his last line. Try to do it, without any rancour whatsoever. All the Best. Rgds, TS
From India, Hyderabad
From India, Hyderabad
Dear Barkha,
Sometimes we people make problem for our self. No doubt we have to consider colleagues as good friends and we have to make good relations with them but we have to maintain our gap also. Lack of professional gap creates problems and cause stress. May be somewhere you are responsible for the said problem as not to maintain professional gap.
Well its time to take precautions and not to make this matter such a huge issue in the management. As you are well aware about them – go to them and discuss the same thing and have views - try to sort out the issue upto maximum possible limit – left your ego aside - ensure them that you are a good friend of them – feel sorry if you are at fault or forgive them if they say sorry and realize mistake.
Remember :- A employee who is not able to maintain gap in professional life may loose there self-respect.
Regards
Pankaj Chandan
From India, New delhi
Sometimes we people make problem for our self. No doubt we have to consider colleagues as good friends and we have to make good relations with them but we have to maintain our gap also. Lack of professional gap creates problems and cause stress. May be somewhere you are responsible for the said problem as not to maintain professional gap.
Well its time to take precautions and not to make this matter such a huge issue in the management. As you are well aware about them – go to them and discuss the same thing and have views - try to sort out the issue upto maximum possible limit – left your ego aside - ensure them that you are a good friend of them – feel sorry if you are at fault or forgive them if they say sorry and realize mistake.
Remember :- A employee who is not able to maintain gap in professional life may loose there self-respect.
Regards
Pankaj Chandan
From India, New delhi
This reminds of the advice given to me by my trainer, when I was undergoing training as an Industrial Engineer. He said "Be friendly with all; and never become familiar with workers". Simhan
From United Kingdom
From United Kingdom
Why did you have to inform the CEO about all this?
These stuffs are to be maintaoned outside office. If they are playign silly things with each other, all you need to do is - show no emotions that u r pleased or irriated. just ignore. They will close their mouth and start focusing on their work. End of the day people will blame you that you were encouraging this. And I believe that you are not at all interested in these things. So behave in the same way...act like as if you dont even see that such a fight between them is on.
Dont think of resigning because someone else is acting wierd dear. Once you start focusing on your issues and show least interest towards them, tehy will understand that you do not entertain such things, and it can only hamper their growth in the company.
Chill... :-) Just dont bother. Certain issues are best solved by not reacting! or responding! this is one such scenario
From India, Madras
These stuffs are to be maintaoned outside office. If they are playign silly things with each other, all you need to do is - show no emotions that u r pleased or irriated. just ignore. They will close their mouth and start focusing on their work. End of the day people will blame you that you were encouraging this. And I believe that you are not at all interested in these things. So behave in the same way...act like as if you dont even see that such a fight between them is on.
Dont think of resigning because someone else is acting wierd dear. Once you start focusing on your issues and show least interest towards them, tehy will understand that you do not entertain such things, and it can only hamper their growth in the company.
Chill... :-) Just dont bother. Certain issues are best solved by not reacting! or responding! this is one such scenario
From India, Madras
Hi,
FIrstly I am assuming that all these are occurring within the office premises or an extended place of work.
Since the CEO of the company is already aware of the issue, you can look at warning the men if their approach doesn't seem acceptable to you. Please be aware of your rights as an employee and a citizen. If you strongly believe that you are being made a victim of undue discrimination and prejudice, you can always approach the Head of the Organization or any person appointed to inquire into such instances of Harassment.
At several companies these days, such instances are categorized under Gender Discrimination or Sexual Harassment or both for which the employer and the perpetrators are legally punishable.
So my suggestion is that REPORT the matter to a person whom you are confident in. Your silence may aggravate the matter.
Always remember that you have the right to self determination and there is no reason to compromise your job due to some unjustified reason as these.
Good Luck Buddy!
Regards,
Girish.S.
From India, Delhi
FIrstly I am assuming that all these are occurring within the office premises or an extended place of work.
Since the CEO of the company is already aware of the issue, you can look at warning the men if their approach doesn't seem acceptable to you. Please be aware of your rights as an employee and a citizen. If you strongly believe that you are being made a victim of undue discrimination and prejudice, you can always approach the Head of the Organization or any person appointed to inquire into such instances of Harassment.
At several companies these days, such instances are categorized under Gender Discrimination or Sexual Harassment or both for which the employer and the perpetrators are legally punishable.
So my suggestion is that REPORT the matter to a person whom you are confident in. Your silence may aggravate the matter.
Always remember that you have the right to self determination and there is no reason to compromise your job due to some unjustified reason as these.
Good Luck Buddy!
Regards,
Girish.S.
From India, Delhi
Dear Barkha,
If you r straight & forward, go to the guys & tell them what you r going thru...tell them that if they really cared for you, they shouldn't do such kind of cheap things. Also you can say " being a lady all alone in a new city, they r the only one you can rely".Try to take them in confidence..........& most important thing..........DON'T TAKE TOO MUCH TENSION:)
From India, Madras
If you r straight & forward, go to the guys & tell them what you r going thru...tell them that if they really cared for you, they shouldn't do such kind of cheap things. Also you can say " being a lady all alone in a new city, they r the only one you can rely".Try to take them in confidence..........& most important thing..........DON'T TAKE TOO MUCH TENSION:)
From India, Madras
I am facing geat mental tension in my new offc place.Basically I am a north Indian Girl & I joined this co.1 month back(which is in Kerala,Trivandrum)
Dear where in trivandrum and which company you are engaged with?
I am working in technopark, trivandrum and basically i am from trivandrum?
From India, Kochi
Dear where in trivandrum and which company you are engaged with?
I am working in technopark, trivandrum and basically i am from trivandrum?
From India, Kochi
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